Customer Thank You Notes Salon

I win, you win

Last night at some point with a friend and 'talked about what is real in a relationship, those important things, the so-called posts, you are projecting forward in an encounter with a person in a real relationship ... and came out the golden rules, those everyone says to respect, mutual trust, freedom ', no worries, no resentments, intimacy,' you ', but not imprisonment for two, no boredom.
Here today ... I wonder why, if the premises are always good, if good intentions are really good to both sides, as I said you never get the time (I would say almost always) in situations mutual injuries, pain, anger?

am personally aware that we have given the best of me in my relationships ... and often the worst.
Injury, react with anger to overcome the pain. Usually, but I'm trying to improve ...
Now looking back at those times when venomous words poured out in letters or e-mail or direct discussions with the person who loved to 5 minutes before (no, adored even hate) do not recognize myself. More
, 'I repent,' cause the satisfaction not to hurt him 'never got paid off or otherwise not in the least pain since the dismissal.
At the time I felt fully entitled to be bad, to be slightly poisonous, an explosion of resentment and revenge ... I had been hurt, betrayed in the sense of loyalty 'that tied me to the person most to me' darling, I could act like I wanted ...

Nothing more 'wrong, I say now ...
too 'cause, still backward, I admit that was not really move away what I wanted to hurt him either, I'd just wanted to put things right. But the bombings, and so heavy, what were the remains precarious of a once solid relationship.

reading "The Elegance of the Hedgehog" I heard of this game: the go.
The goal of the game and 'win, but without crushing the opponent.
It is said that those who are 'too greedy and try to win big too conquering territory at the end loses everything.
Part of the difficulty of the strategic game is to strike a balance between conflicting needs, a little 'what happens between two people who are building something together.

Now I wonder how to react ricapitasse if I try a pain so 'strong as what I felt years ago ... and really do not know if I've reached peace similbuddista I aspire to in such situations, but' I've learned not to destroy.
To understand exactly what I want and to understand if and 'likely to be achieved.

now remains the main problem: I have to find a guinea pig on which to test this new maturity 'sentimental ... ; OP

I leave you with a video of a song and 'sad, but I like it very much ... and when I heard today, I have always in mind.



Ed = Rompin note: these thoughts are thrown Random reflections on situations and mine alone. References to events or real people different from me and my world are purely coincidental ...